Selena Gomez is standing firm against critics who have targeted her for sharing her personal struggles. The pop star, who has spent much of her life in the public eye, recently spoke candidly about her inability to carry children and her battle with bipolar disorder. In response to those criticising her vulnerability, Gomez delivered a powerful message, stressing the importance of openness and self-acceptance while bluntly asking her detractors to “kindly f*** off.”
During a speech at a Women in Film dinner in Beverly Hills, Gomez said, “I truly believe there is power in being vulnerable and telling people when you need help or when you want help — that is not shameful.” Referring to her medical challenges, she added, “Yes, I shared that I can’t carry a child. Yes, I shared that I have bipolar. Screw off. That’s what my life is. That’s who I am.”
This fiery statement follows a revealing interview with Vanity Fair on September 9, where Gomez opened up about her health and the heartbreaking reality that she cannot give birth due to medical risks that could endanger both her and the baby. Despite this, the 32-year-old singer, who is in a relationship with music producer Benny Blanco, remains optimistic about her future and is exploring alternative ways to become a mother, including surrogacy and adoption.
“I thought it would unfold like it does for everyone else,” Gomez said, referring to her original vision of motherhood. “But I’m in a much better place now. I see it as a blessing that there are amazing options like surrogacy and adoption, both of which are significant possibilities for me.”
The Calm Down singer, who was diagnosed with lupus years ago and received a kidney transplant in 2017, has been vocal about her ongoing health journey. Speaking about her experiences, she said, “It’s something I had to grieve for a while.” Despite these challenges, Gomez remains determined to build a family, expressing gratitude for the options available to those unable to conceive naturally.
“I find it a blessing that there are wonderful people willing to do surrogacy or adoption, which are both huge possibilities for me,” Gomez said. “It made me really thankful for the other outlets for people who are dying to be moms. I’m one of those people.”
Through her openness, Selena Gomez continues to advocate for women, emphasizing that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness. “Do not ever let anyone tell you that you are not a good person,” she said. “You’re a survivor in my book.”